Saturday, August 1, 2009

Creating Your Perfect Profile; Better Online Dating

First impressions are often important in various different aspects of life. While you may get the opportunity in some instances to reverse a poor impression and change the opinion of others, in many cases the opportunity may simply pass you by.
The best online dating reviews all stress the importance of creating an excellent profile, as do the millions of users across thousands of sites who are all looking for others to interact with. Creating your perfect profile isn't as difficult as it may seem and will benefit you greatly in attempting to reach out to others in your community.
Taking each section of the profile step by step can make the entire process seem a little less intimidating and by carefully browsing through some tips you may find that you too can express yourself accurately and attractively.
If you need a title, header or statement for your profile it's important that you choose just the right one. This will be the first thing that anyone who is interested in meeting you sees and can have a profound effect on their desire to learn more about you.
Staying true to yourself is important and your first statement should reflect some aspect of your personality. Whether you're shooting for wildly funny, mysteriously captivating or intellectually provocative, using a clever mix of your true feelings and some clever word play can really be eye catching.
Certain words and phrases are often enormous turn-offs to others even if they accurately portray your own feelings. Some statements you probably don't want to make initially:
* Any kind of racist or sexist statement is often repulsive (even if joking about yourself.)
* Strong political or religious messages may be too much even for like-minded people.
* Crude or inappropriate sexual statements often send out the wrong type of signal.
* Making your message too cutesy or childish doesn't often get a good response.
* Messages that are too generic often get passed over.
Every person has their own unique personality along with the many things that they have in common with others. Use this blend of originality and common interests to attract those who you believe would be best suited for you.
User names:
As silly as it might seem, your user name often sends out a strong message about who you are and should therefore be appropriate. Many of the same rules apply to your screen name as to titles and other statements you make, so be careful not to choose the wrong one. Remember that in chat rooms many people might be able to see your user name and this may be the places where it catches the eye of your sweetheart.
Choosing to show your flirty side choosing a name that includes words that allude to some form of physical intimacy may work well for hot personals, but be careful not to choose phrases that may give the wrong impression. Even those who are looking for an alternative dating community, one perhaps far more focused on physical encounters, the right name can still be of great importance.
Too bland may also send the wrong message or may simply cause you to go unnoticed, so be ready to be a little bold with your selection.
Choosing just the right image to display in your profile isn't just about looking attractive. One of the advantages of internet dating is that you are allowed to take a good, long look at everything a person has posted about themselves and this includes every detail of their picture. What you choose to display in the background may speak volumes about your personality and should therefore be considered in any photo you choose.
Many people are tempted to use photos that are misleading in order to make their profile more attractive. This often due to the lack of acceptable age differences in dating, gained weight, hair loss and other issues which people fear will make them less desirable.
Though it will be tempting to embellish a little in your profile, in the end this does you more harm than good. When you do happen to meet the right person you will have shown them a false representation of yourself, which may not matter so much physically to some, but certainly makes a statement about your ability to deceive which most people will find unattractive.
The best examples of great dating profiles often include pictures that are a very accurate portrayal of the person: well taken photos that do not look too manipulated and represent the person in their element. These are the kinds of pictures that will allow you to connect with others without having to resort to tactics that will almost certainly ruin your chances with anyone special.
It is also important to keep in mind that any photos you post will be available for the entire world to see. Capturing a picture, even if your community has safeguards, is not a difficult task. Be careful about the kinds of photos you post lest they fall into the wrong hands, or turn up and embarrass you later in life.
About You:
The body of text will summarize your personality may be the most intimidating part of the profile. Many people shy away from this section because they believe they either have no gift for words, or will not come across well in text.
In truth, you do not need to be an award winning author to write an attractive profile. Whether you're looking for the love of your life or simply looking to do a little flirting online your message will be a window into what others may find attractive about you.
Taking the time to write down those traits which you believe others will find most attractive may help you when trying to include them in your message. Remember that most people feel a little nervous about writing their profiles and often include this in their statements as reason for stumbling over words.
The most important aspect of your profile is that your personality shines through the text. It is often recommended that you enlist the aid of a close friend for any advice about how to describe yourself, or the very least ask someone you trust to review your statements before posting.
Try to avoid making some of the most common mistakes made in text formats that can detract from the overall impression you make on others:
* Swearing a lot, in some cases at all, may come across poorly.
* Messages that seem too aggressive about certain subjects may give the wrong impression.
* Constant spelling and grammatical errors may force others to draw the wrong conclusions about you.
* Poorly though out, or dull statements may cause others to navigate away from your profile because you're not giving anyone a chance to know the real you.
* Too much detail can also turn people away as profiles are often reviewed to get a general idea of what a person is like.
* Sharing anything too personal in a profile may cause some people to feel uncomfortable. Also remember never to share any personal info about your location or identity that may be used against you.
* Though humor is often a big plus in dating, if the humor is difficult to understand the overall impression may be poor.
Finishing Touches:
Once you have created your perfect profile don't forget to look everything over in a review stage before submission. This second look at words and/or pictures may prevent you from making a crucial mistake, perhaps in even an embarrassing one.
Above all, take your time when creating your profile and be sure that your first impression on others is the right one. Once you have accomplished this task you'll be ready to sit back and start meeting others within your new community and hopefully, find the person who will have found, in your profile, the perfect match to their own.

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